I've just started reading this book but already greatly impressed by the writing skill in presenting difficult concepts. I am a nonexpert but have been blessed with the insight to understand the importance of interactions being described to the relevance to the theraputic setting.  I find it highly disconcerting that practices and concepts routinely used are not more widely recognized and exercised between ordinary folks. People speak of love then are unrealistically critical of others. Our filters and flexibility in thinking are very much related to the traumas we have experienced and the age they occurred! !